Primal Leadership Realizing the Power of Emotional

  • Paperback
  • 336 pages
  • Primal Leadership Realizing the Power of Emotional Intelligence
  • Daniel Goleman
  • English
  • 08 September 2016
  • 9781591391845

10 thoughts on “Primal Leadership Realizing the Power of Emotional Intelligence

  1. says:

    This book was helpful to me it had good advice and helped me clarify some thoughts and feelings I've been having around leadership that I had not previously been able to articulate Goleman argues that one of the most important jobs of a leader is to regulate the emotional atmosphere of the community Emotions are contagious and people look to their leaders to set the mood and emotional tone He also shows that effective leadership is a skill set that can be chosen and learned that good leaders are made not born And he has practical advice about how to do that He talks about the four areas of emotional intelligence self awareness emotional self management social awareness relationship management and how they relate to building leadership competency He also reviews Boyatzi's theory of self directed learning which was useful to me 1 Develop a clear vision your ideal self the person you want to become2 Reflect deeply on your real self develop self knowledge about who you actually are right now Identify strengths which are where the ideal self and real self overlap and identify weaknesses areas where the ideal and real self differ3 Develop a learning agenda which builds on strengths while reducing gaps4 Experiment with new behaviour thoughts and feelings and practicing new behaviors and skills5 Developing trusting relationships that help support and encourage each step of the processThis is the approach to coaching and mentoring I've been intuitively taking so it was cool to see it laid outI've had a lot of reluctance and ambivalence about becoming a leader I didn't want to be a leader and haven't known how to be one because I've never been a follower I have slowly accepted that offering visionary leadership is part of my service that it is something that people need and something that I have the capacity to do well in part precisely because I hate control authority and manipulation So if it is my fate to be put into positions of leadership whether I want to be or not I have a responsibility to do it as well as I am able which means developing these skills with discipline and concentration and humility This book relieved a lot of my anxiety around these issues making this learning project seem manageable

  2. says:

    There are many books on the market these days describing leadership skills but I thought this one had some particularly good insights It places less emphasis on values like intelligence vision and strategy; and on emotional intelligence enthusiasm empathy relationship management intuitive understanding Using many real world examples the author tries to define and explain those key ualities Good leaders bring out resonance among a team while poor ones create dissonanceGoleman acknowledges that leadership can't be fully taught in seminars and programs; it reuires real world practice He emphasizes the role of mentors coaches and teachers in that process Leaders who are emotionally intelligent will use leadership skills and styles that are resonance building and will create positive environmentsI found much to think about in this volume both in the vocational world and in church settings

  3. says:

    Primal Leadership Realizing the Power of Emotional Intelligence the book's subject is truly interesting and worth exploring However once you read the major part of it there's almost nothing new just the same repeated idea that emotional intelligence is important Thus the book could be so much shorter This book is highly theoretical and severely lacks touches on practical learning although might be not bad at creating motivation to learn and search for information somewhere else

  4. says:

    Some powerful and groundbreaking ideas ruined by uninspired writing and buried under a mountain of weak examples and pointless study summariesIt is ironic that a book about Emotional Intelligence was written with so little Emotional Intelligence the result is as interesting as reading my grocery list Sadly an extraordinary topic becomes dull and frustratingThe book was written by different people and it shows while a few parts are exciting and engaging other chapters are boring and hard to read and others seem a cut and paste from a Powerpoint presentation or from a technical reportI doubt that that Daniel Goleman author of Emotional Intelligence was much involved in writing thisThe authors showed many real life examples of different leaders This could have been extremely strong and powerful but it wasn't with a few exceptions Most of the real life examples were just too short to have an impact on meAlso the writers seemed uite full of themselves as they kept reminding us that they worked with thousands of managers CEOs executives entrepreneurs all from global multinational world class companiesI expected to enjoy this and to learn something important from it Instead it was so boring it took me nearly seven months to read it

  5. says:

    Originally published in 2002 it is easy for me to think there isn't a lot that is new The reason being is that much of what this book contains formed the foundation for so much subseuent discussion writing and thought in leadership and emotional intelligence The book works through several sections I The Power of Emotional Intelligence discusses how EI traits impact leadership and behavior; II Making Leaders how can one improve EI and leadership skills; and III Building Emotionally Intelligent Organizations The book combines anecdote and studiesdata see the 'notes' at the end of the book if you want to learn about where their claims come from is well written and serves as a great primer on how emotional intelligence traits are critical in leadership It contains several useful paradigms and guidance on how to operationalize emotional intelligence; below I've pulled out what are for me many of the key passages Overall is well written useful well referenced Most beneficial for someone who hasn't done much reading into EI and leadership but truly anyone involved with leading or working with others will likely find benefit in reading it and if not then perhaps go back to the index listing of 'self awareness' and start again on those pages Excerptsuotesideas developed EI domains and associated competencies Self Awareness emotional self awareness accurate self assessment self confidence; Self Management emotional self control transparency adaptability achievement initiative optimism; Social Awareness empathy organizational awareness service; Relationship Management inspirational leadership influence developing others change catalyst conflict management building bonds teamwork and collaboration On relationship management 'the art of handling relationships well then begins with authenticity' 'socially skilled leaderswork under the assumption that nothing important gets done alone' Leadership styles outlined in the book Visionary Coaching Affiliative Democratic Pacesetting and Commanding be careful with use of the last two 'When it comes to filling a leadership position it pays to find someone who has the flexible repertoire of four or styles that marks the most outstanding leaderWhatever a leader's repertoire of styles today it can grow wider tomorrow The key lies in strengthening the underling emotional intelligence abilities that drive a given style' CEO disease the information vacuum around a leader created when people withhold important and usually unpleasant information 'To become effective leaders need to break through the information uarantine around them and the conspiracy to keep them pleased even if uninformed' esp for negative feedback 'Are some people born with certain levels of empathy or do they learn it? The answer is both There is a genetic component to emotional intelligence to be sure but nurture plays a major roleeveryone can learn to improve no matter where he or she starts out' Boyatzis's Theory of Self Directed Learning 1 My ideal self who do I want to be 2 My real self who am I my strengths my gaps 3 My learning agenda build on strengths close gaps 4 Experimenting with new behaviors thoughts feelings; practicing 5 Developing trusting relationships support help encourage each step in process Learning agenda better than a 'performance improvement plan' which is less meaningful to you individually and anxiety producing 'Its possible to improve if you do three things bring bad habits into awareness consciously practice a better way and rehearse that new behavior at every opportunity until it becomes automatic that is until mastery has occurred' 'When it comes to leadership you've just begun the task when you change a single leader The rest of the job is to develop a critical mass of resonant leaders and thereby transform how people work togetherThe most effective leadership development works hand in hand with parallel transformations in the organization' 'when teams face their collective emotional reality they begin a healthy reexamination of the shared habits that create and hold that reality in placegroups begin to change only when they first have fully grasped the reality of how they functionthe root of the problem often lies with long established and deeply embedded ground rules or habits that govern the group We call those rules norms when we talk about teams and culture when we refer to the larger organization' Collective mindfulness awareness of what the team was doing and why Allows team to make decisions about what to do and how to do it rather than blindly following ineffective norms; includes using 'process norms' 'Setting the right ground rules reuires an emotionally intelligent leaderthe best leaders pay attention and act on their sense of what is going on in the group and they needn't be obvious about it Subtle messagesare powerful too Under such leadership teams over time naturally accumulate a common positive lore about how to operate with each other' 'When people have authentic conversations about how they feel about their organization there tends to be a very high level of agreement about what's working and what's notthey create a language that captures the real truth about the forces that affect people's day to day lives in the organization as well as their hopes for the futureDiscussions about cultural issues emotional reality of an organization and how it feels to work there usually result in people feeling some ownership of the problems the dream and the process of getting from the real to the ideal' 'Creating organizations that are emotionally intelligent is ultimately the leader's responsibility It is up tot he leader to help the organization identify its reality including the cultural norms that hinder it and then to explore the ideal vision of what could be and help members of the organization uncover their own roles in that vision And it is leaders who attune people to the vision and begin taking action toward change 'Leadership development needs to be the strategic priority of the enterpriseto succeed top management needs to demonstrate that commitment from the top' not just a reuirementinitiative from the HR department Reasons leadership development initiatives fail they don't focus on the whole person or on discoveries that lead to sustainable change ignore the real state of the organization attempt to change only the person and not the norms of the group drive the change pocess from the wrong place in the organization ie it needs to come from the top and failing to develop a meaningful language of leadership From their conclusion 'Increasingly the bestlead not b virtue of power alone but by excelling in the art of relationshipleadership excellence is defined in interpersonal termsleaders have knack forarticulating a mission that resonates with the values of those they lead These leaders naturally nurture relationships surface simmering issues and create human synergiesthey build a fierce loyalty by caring about the careers of those who work for them and inspire people to give their best for a mission that speaks to shared values An emotionally intelligent leader does each of these at the right time in the right way with the right person Such leadership creates a climate of enthusiasm and flexibilitySuch leaders are values driven flexible and informal and open and frank than leaders of oldThey exude resonance they have a genuine passion for their mission and that passion is contagious'

  6. says:

    Class assignment I created a blog for this book at that contains videos form the authors and other reviews about this book According to the book PRIMAL LEADERSHIP REALIZING THE POWER OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE by Daniel Goleman Richard Boyatzis and Annie McKee it takes emotional intelligence EI to be an effective leader The book discusses what emotional intelligence is and gives many examples of the positive effect of six different leadership styles Visionary Coaching Affiliative Democratic Pacesetting and Commanding I struggled with interest in the book for the first 12 pages because it talked about how the brain functions and did not appeal to my learning style As the book continued I became hooked The authors use real life stories to explain the leadership styles and the emotional intelligence EI a leader must have to be successful The stories made the book interesting to me and I could relate to the examples The first half of the book gives examples and comparisons of effective and ineffective leaders I used this to evaluate my EI strengths and gaps The second half of the book gave stories and examples of how to develop EIPRIMAL LEADERSHIP REALIZING THE POWER OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE will benefit all school professionals because every teacher counselor principal etc is in a leadership position with the students and co workers This book helps you to recognize your strengths and build on them to develop in areas where you have gaps The leaders in the school are the models that students learn from To be a successful professional in education emotional intelligence is a very valuable uality to possess I would highly recommend this book This was a very interesting book one that I would like in my personal library

  7. says:

    I read this book on the recommendation of a mentor As a church leader I realize I'm just dipping my toe into the vast sea of business leadership literature with this book Still the relevance of this book for congregational leadership is immediately obvious The authors propose that emotions matter enormously for leadership and that leaders ignore emotional realities in themselves and the organizations with whom they lead at their own peril This means the Primal Task of leadership is emotional management the self management of a leader's own emotional life and learning how to respect and respond to the emotional realities of teams and groups This was probably a shocking claim in 2003 when this book was first published It seems that everywhere people are waking up to the limitations of hard rationalism and learning how to take emotions seriously Still this book provides a clear and compelling argument substantiated through research It also provides some very practical suggestions for cultivating emotional intelligence as an individual and in an organization's cultureI'd recommend this book to anyone interested in leadership development for themselves and those in their field of influence

  8. says:

    I am of two minds with this book On the one hand there are some useful leadership frameworks and exercises specifically1 The 4 domains of EI leadership and 18 competencies2 The 6 styles of leadership and when to use them3 5 Discoveries in learning EI leadership4 Basically all of chapter 7 imagining your ideal self and associated free writing exercisesOn the other this book does a lot of work trying to show bad bosses why they are bad which can be painful to read As the authors note clueless leaders with no self awareness or empathy communicate with empty platitudes and the smokescreen of business jargon which just makes everyone depressed Between the genuinely useful chapters there are often chapters that merely serve as a human manual for sociopaths

  9. says:

    Mixed feelings about this1 The first half of the book was awesome the framework of leadership styles and the personal leadership development plan2 The second half of the book about organization level EI leadership development was a complete bore It was itself what it most criticised lengthy stream of nice sounding but rather empty words uite non inspirational and intangible In this company they ran a program X and everybody was transformed in that company they ran program Y and it fell flat All these stories seemed to lack the specificness or detail to actually tell and teach anything or at least they were not interesting to read even though hopes were high after the great first half of the book Or maybe I'm just too junior of a manager to be turned on by this org level EI transformation talk

  10. says:

    I DIDN'T FINISH THISI got through about 36 40% and had to stop My god is it redundant I probably absorbed a little but nothing I couldn't have learned in a 1 5 page summary of the book and I took extensive notes In the end the absolutely terrible writing distracted me far too much from any real learningThis book will likely be better for people who don't already have a psych degree and who do have far patience than I do I mean some people like repetition to make sure a message really sinks in Some people enjoy redundancies For some hearing things over and over again makes it all much clearer AHHHHHH

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Primal Leadership Realizing the Power of Emotional Intelligence National bestseller now available in paperbackDrawing from decades of research within world class organizations the authors show that great leaders excel not just through skill and smarts but by connecting with others using Emotional Intelligence competencies like empathy and self awareness The best leaders they show have resonance a powerful ability to drive emotions in a positive direction to get results and can fluidly interchange among a variety of leadership styles as the situation demands Groundbreaking and timely this book reveals the new reuirements of successful leadership

About the Author: Daniel Goleman

Author of Emotional Intelligence and psychologist Daniel Goleman has transformed the way the world educates children relates to family and friends and conducts business The Wall Street Journal ranked him one of the 10 most influential business thinkers Goleman’s Emotional Intelligence was on The New York Times best sellers list for a year and a half Named one of the 25 Most Influential Busin